Eckhart Tolle recognises that we all experience pain. Rather than trying to ignore, run, hide from it, he basically says don’t bother.
Instead be still with it, seeing it face on, and experience it. By resisting the pain, we are likely to create more pain, more reaction and allow it to be – notice it, the fear, pain in the body, emotionally whatever it may be, allow it to be.
Eckhart speaks from his own personal experience, particularly fearful thinking. What he calls ‘pain body’, not even labelling, just sitting with it.
The idea of noticing one’s sensations is very similar to Goenka Ji‘s teachings as well. The idea that our body allows us to understand how we really feel, faster than our mind or before we have the chance to digest what we are really thinking.
Through realisation, the ‘who we are’ is found in the ‘looking’ rather than what we appear. Eckhart emphasises the present and identifies the pain almost like a form of energy that can run through us, run past us and leave us, rather than allowing something to build in us, he offers a way to cut the vicious cycle which we may re-enact unconsciousness and allow that pain to remain and even at times grow.
‘Painbody’ distorts and creates dramas in our lives. Using examples of how it is so easy to see people get angry at each other, having expectations and not realising what is going on in the other person’s life. What pain is aroused is not new; but rather is old pain, childhood pain even inter-generational pain.
An example is when one says, ‘He let me down’, is potentially a judgement on a neutral situation. By missing the simplicity of the event, sometimes we can create drama out of nothing. According to Eckhart whatever the demands, ‘He/she does not understand me’ – creates pain, builds on pain that started long ago.
What difference does it make by thinking otherwise? Try surrender. Rather than thinking of defeat and failure. Instead of putting up with situations that are unsatisfactory, surrender is the profound wisdom of yielding to rather than against the present situation. To relinquish inner resistance and being in the present moment. Appreciating things go wrong now and then, acceptance of what is frees us of attachments to the problems. To surrender is to recognise the situation, no judgement of the now, no resistance, no emotional negativity, then take action to do all you can to get out of the situation.
Getting out of the situation – without anger, without negative emotions, but rather light having a flash night at dark when there is a great fog. The light provides direction as to where you need to go, so rather than focusing on the dark fog, the torch allows us to focus and trust we are going where we need to go.
Eckhart eloquently describes the physical tensions we may experience when we resist. Instead when we surrender, we dissolve the fear that manifests in us physically. It is also a recognition and value of our very being. This allows us to redirect our energy to go to our source and create and be who we really want to be – embracing that quality of surrendered action.
When we see clarity, we see things clearly; nature doing what she needs to do, grow and bloom naturally.